Today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. (It always falls on the Friday before Mother’s Day, just in case you were wondering. Which was a pretty awesome move if you happen to be a mother and a military spouse.)
Today, I am thankful to be a part of the military spouse community. I don’t often write about our military life, but it’s a huge part of who I am. The moves, the deployments, the unpredictable schedules. It’s my life and I’m damn proud of it, even if I don’t say it as much as I should. The men and women (yes, men are military spouses, too. People seem to forget that little tidbit) I’ve met over the past ten+ years have been nothing but resilient, strong, loyal, and brave and I am so proud to stand among them. I am forever thankful and indebted to the spouses who had to endure the ultimate sacrifice, and they are the ones we should keep in our hearts and prayers today.
Instead of thanking a military spouse today (although a “thank you” never hurts), talk to them. Even if it’s a neighbor you’ve only spoken to once or twice. Talk to them. Ask them if you can help with watching the kids so they can shower in peace or go grab a cup of coffee. Give them a shoulder to cry on. Give them a hug. Tell them they’re not alone. Because we can often feel alone, even when our spouse comes home every night. We’re always the new people in town and it can be hard to find friends, especially outside of the military community. Just knowing there’s someone there to talk to, to laugh with, to cry with? That means more than any “thank you” could.
But, I will ignore my own advice for a moment, because I can do that, and say “thank you” to all of my fellow spouses. Thank you for welcoming me with open arms. Thank you for being there when I freaked out over the silliest things during deployments. Thank you for being my family when my blood relatives were states away and continuing to be my family even when a PCS meant we’d no longer live in the same state or time zone. Thank you for telling me the best doctors and pizza places at our new stations. Thank you. Thank you.